When Friendship Turns Toxic: 5 Warning Signs You Must Never Ignore

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Friendship should lift us up, not drain our self-worth. Yet, “toxic” friendships are more common than most admit, and their emotional toll can be deep and lasting. How do you know when a bond has turned bad? Drawing on key insights from Psychology Today’s expert Kaytee Gillis, here’s a guide to recognizing the red flags — and what to do next.

1. Disrespecting Boundaries — Again and Again

Healthy friends respect your emotional and physical limits. Toxic friends repeatedly cross the lines you set, whether that’s ignoring your need for space, privacy, or simply not answering calls after a certain hour. Persistent disregard, especially after you’ve voiced your needs, is a classic warning sign.

2. Cruelty and Unkindness

Jokes about your appearance, beliefs, or background — and jokes that hurt — are never harmless. If “friendly teasing” morphs into cruelty, or if your friend makes discriminatory remarks while knowing they offend, it’s not banter; it’s toxic.

3. Gossiping and Betraying Confidence

If a friend routinely talks behind your back or shares your private issues under the guise of “concern,” it’s time to question their intentions…